Codependency Test
You care about the people close to you, and sometimes your own needs go quiet. This test shows how much room they have right now.
≈4 min Questions: 18
You know that feeling when someone close goes quiet and your whole afternoon rearranges itself around it? This test doesn’t ask whether you’re a good person. It shows how caring is arranged in your life right now, and what it costs you. Pick the answer closest to how things are lately, even if none fits exactly. It takes about four minutes, and at the end you get a short description of where you are, in plain words. Wanting to be there for people is a good thing to want. The question is only what it costs you.
Codependency Test
Your Own Life
You keep a seat for yourself. That's why your giving lasts.
You know what you'd like for dinner, and you say it. When a friend needs a hand, you give it and still have your evening left.
Looking after your own needs is part of what keeps your care going, so there is nothing here to fix.
Judging by your answers, your attention seems to split fairly: some goes to the people close to you, and some stays with you. That often keeps small disagreements small, because you aren't paying for them out of your own energy.
This is a picture of where you are now. A hard stretch with someone close can move it a little, and that is an ordinary thing for any pattern to do.
One small step: do one small thing today that is only for you.
StillNormal
Maryna Lyadneva psychologist
Codependency Test
Your Own Life
You keep a seat for yourself. That's why your giving lasts.
You know what you'd like for dinner, and you say it. When a friend needs a hand, you give it and still have your evening left.
Looking after your own needs is part of what keeps your care going, so there is nothing here to fix.
This is my result. What will the test show you?
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Codependency Test
Leaning a Little
Was that yes really yours? Now and then it isn't.
Mostly you say what you want and give what you can. Now and then a request lands and your answer is out before you've checked in with yourself, especially when someone close looks a little let down.
That happens to people who care. It doesn't mean your needs are missing, only that at that moment they're a step behind.
Often this means the mind is treating a close person's mood as news about your own safety, so it answers fast to keep things calm. Just one or two areas may be doing most of that work, and the result can't say which.
Think of a door that swings open a beat too quickly: the hinge is fine, it only wants a little hold.
One small step: write one sentence that begins with 'I would like' and leave it in your phone notes.
StillNormal
Maryna Lyadneva psychologist
Codependency Test
Leaning a Little
Was that yes really yours? Now and then it isn't.
Mostly you say what you want and give what you can. Now and then a request lands and your answer is out before you've checked in with yourself, especially when someone close looks a little let down.
That happens to people who care. It doesn't mean your needs are missing, only that at that moment they're a step behind.
This is my result. What will the test show you?
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Codependency Test
Somewhere in Between
Two ways of living share one week. Both are you.
On easy days you decide from your own wishes. On strained ones you read a face before you read yourself, and both come from the same person.
Both sides of this are yours to keep, and swinging between them is a common way for a mind to answer pressure.
When things are ordinary, the cost may barely show. When they get harder with someone close, more than one area tends to switch on together, attention and giving among them. That looks like a threshold and not a settled habit, so there is room on both sides of it, and how you read this result may depend on which stretch of time you have in mind.
One small step: say out loud one thing you would like this evening.
StillNormal
Maryna Lyadneva psychologist
Codependency Test
Somewhere in Between
Two ways of living share one week. Both are you.
On easy days you decide from your own wishes. On strained ones you read a face before you read yourself, and both come from the same person.
Both sides of this are yours to keep, and swinging between them is a common way for a mind to answer pressure.
This is my result. What will the test show you?
Take the test · stillnormal.com
Codependency Test
Orbiting Others
You catch every shift in a voice. That is real work.
You notice the change before the sentence ends. You say yes before checking your own energy, and you smooth things over so the evening stays calm.
Wanting to keep someone steady is a form of love, and it makes sense that you got good at it.
Your mind may have found that keeping others steady keeps you steady too, so it keeps scanning.
The same care that makes you so dependable also takes your rest and your own preferences in payment.
It can feel like a house where every window is lit except yours.
One small step: give yourself ten minutes today with your phone off and nothing to do for anyone.
StillNormal
Maryna Lyadneva psychologist
Codependency Test
Orbiting Others
You catch every shift in a voice. That is real work.
You notice the change before the sentence ends. You say yes before checking your own energy, and you smooth things over so the evening stays calm.
Wanting to keep someone steady is a form of love, and it makes sense that you got good at it.
This is my result. What will the test show you?
Take the test · stillnormal.com
Codependency Test
Everything Points Outward
Your care is enormous. So is the bill you pay for it.
Someone else's mood and whereabouts take up most of your attention. You step in before anyone asks, you soften the truth, and your own feelings wait at the back.
This is almost never indifference. It looks like caring intensely and fearing you haven't done enough, carried a very long way.
When your calm depends on another person's state, giving can feel like the only safe move, so it may go on even while your rest and health pay for it. Often the situation itself hasn't changed at all, which is a big part of why it wears you out.
Talking it through with a counselor or therapist is an ordinary next step that many people find useful, and it isn't a requirement.
One small step: eat something you actually like, sitting down, and let that be the whole task.
StillNormal
Maryna Lyadneva psychologist
Codependency Test
Everything Points Outward
Your care is enormous. So is the bill you pay for it.
Someone else's mood and whereabouts take up most of your attention. You step in before anyone asks, you soften the truth, and your own feelings wait at the back.
This is almost never indifference. It looks like caring intensely and fearing you haven't done enough, carried a very long way.
This is my result. What will the test show you?
Take the test · stillnormal.com Maryna Lyadneva psychologist
How this test works
Where the questions come from, what the scale rests on, and why the result is not a diagnosis.
How strongly six facets of a codependent pattern (attention turned outward, self-sacrifice, control, suppressed feelings, emotional reactivity and taking over for others) currently show up in the reader's own way of relating to people close to them.
Methodology
The test draws on research that treats codependency as a pattern in close relationships, not on one particular questionnaire. Six areas are covered, three questions each: reactions to another person's mood, handling of one's own feelings, where attention goes, what is given up for others, how far one takes over for others, and how much one steers other adults. Five questions are worded from the healthy side and scored in reverse, so that a higher total always means a stronger pattern.
Everything is weighed by what the pattern costs the person answering, whether in rest, money, health or their own wishes. Warmth and generosity by themselves add nothing to the total. Answers are the respondent's own description of their own life, so they are only as exact as that description is on the day. The APA Dictionary of Psychology gives a short definition of the term: codependency in the APA Dictionary of Psychology.
This test is not a diagnostic tool and does not replace a specialist, and codependency is not an official diagnosis. A result names a pattern at one moment. It says nothing about a partner or relatives, or about where a relationship is headed.
Questions
Is codependency a diagnosis?
No. Standard diagnostic manuals do not list it as a condition. It is a name people use for a familiar way of putting someone else's needs ahead of one's own.
Can this test diagnose codependency?
No. A test made of your own answers can show a level of the pattern today, and that is all. Diagnosis of any kind belongs to a trained professional.
Can someone be a little codependent?
Yes. This is a spectrum, and one hard evening does not define it. What shows its shape is how things go across many situations.
How is this different from simply being a caring person?
Being generous does not put you on this scale. The questions ask what your giving takes from you, such as sleep, money, health or things you want, and a person can give a lot while keeping all of that.
What causes it, and can it change?
People often link habits like these to early surroundings, but no test can tell how yours came about. Habits like these can loosen, particularly with self-awareness and support.
Sources
- Dear, G. E., Roberts, C., & Lange, L. (2004). Defining codependency: A thematic analysis of published definitions. In S. Shohov (Ed.), Advances in Psychology, Volume 34 (pp. 189–205). Nova Science Publishers.
- Dear, G. E., & Roberts, C. M. (2000). The Holyoake Codependency Index: Investigation of the Factor Structure and Psychometric Properties. Psychological Reports, 87(3), 991–1002. doi:10.2466/pr0.2000.87.3.991
- Marks, A. D. G., Blore, R. L., Hine, D. W., & Dear, G. E. (2012). Development and validation of a revised measure of codependency. Australian Journal of Psychology, 64(3), 119–127. doi:10.1111/j.1742-9536.2011.00034.x
- Rotunda, R. J., West, L., & O'Farrell, T. J. (2004). Enabling behavior in a clinical sample of alcohol-dependent clients and their partners. Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment, 26(4), 269–276. doi:10.1016/j.jsat.2004.01.007
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